Saturday, March 7, 2009

5 Reasons Why To Go For A Long Distance Relationship

We have all been in this situation, you meet someone very special, you fall in love, everything is perfect, then suddenly it turns out that this very special someone had to leave far far away for college, better job, expedition, you name it. You then have two choices: breaking up or to go for a long distance relationship.

Here are the top 5 reasons to consider why to go for a long distance relationship:

1. Better sorry than safe

There is nothing sadder than a missed opportunity.

A very wise man once said to me: “I never regret things I’ve done, but I regret many things I have not done”.

You never know how things are before you try them. Every single experience, good or bad, enriches your life in some way. It builds the basement for decisions in the future. They make you wiser and build up your self-esteem. Let alone that in every missed opportunity you may have missed the love of your life.

All the good things in life involve a certain risk, but the biggest risk in life is missing out.

Think about that.

2. You gain time for other things

“Finally I can take the Spanish course”.

A long distance relationship isn’t as time consuming as a regular relationship. You can use the free time to reach your personal or job related goals. You have more time for your career, friends, hobbies and family.

3. It’s the ultimate test of seriousness

“I really mean it baby”. Now you can prove your commitment.

There is no point enduring a long distance relationship if you don’t mean it, if you are not fully committed. It just doesn’t work. After a few weeks/months first girl/boy that comes around you like you will break out.

So, this is a test whether you are committed and suitable for each other for a long term relationship.

Of course, this only applies to couples who were together before they were separated in a long distance relationship. If you’ve met in a chat room it’s the other way around.

4. You learn to treasure these rare moments together

Fact is, you’ll probably see each other only 1-2 times a month, if at all. These rare meetings will be an explosion of passion and love. All the longing will focus into this short meeting.

It’s a good lesson to realize what really matters in a relationship.

5. You really get to know each other

It is much easier and much more natural to get to know somebody through e-mail. All the outside-stuff is left out. It is easier to open up, you learn the inner world of you partner.

No pretending, no beautifying.

This also makes the meetings more intense.

There you have it, some thoughts why to take a chance and go for it.

1 comment:

Chie Wilks said...

This is very true Chin....having a long distance relationship is better than seeing each other everyday... With long distance relationship, seriousness can be tested on how true the two of you are for each other...and trust will be sharpen as well..thanks for sharing this nice thoughts